Thursday, October 10, 2024

The Allure of the Cliche


1. The Journey and the Destination

It's astonishing how often the phrase, “The journey is more important than the destination,” is served up as wisdom in motivational talks, books, and social media posts. It rolls off the tongue smoothly, doesn’t it? It fits into the cultural lexicon so neatly that people rarely stop to question it. But when you actually pause to reflect, you begin to wonder: who are these sages who profess such neat little truths? Have they ever experienced either the journey or the destination? And if they have, how did they land on this one-size-fits-all philosophy?

The truth is, most of them haven’t. In fact, they are the opportunists who have learned to capitalize on the most basic human anxieties—disappointment, failure, and the fear of an uncertain future. They don’t sell insights; they sell comfort. They package life’s chaos into digestible sound bites and present them as universal truths. And who doesn’t want comfort in a world that constantly feels like it's on the brink of unraveling?

But life is far too complex, far too nuanced to be reduced to such platitudes. The "journey" isn't always meaningful, and the "destination" isn't always fulfilling. Sometimes, the reverse is true, and most of the time, both are utterly indifferent to your expectations.

Let’s think about the people who would, quite frankly, disagree with this popular cliché. Imagine the person who endured a miserable journey—a slog through difficulty, frustration, and perhaps even despair—only to arrive at a beautiful, fulfilling destination. For them, the destination is everything. The journey? A necessary evil.

On the other hand, take someone who experienced a magnificent, life-affirming journey—a period of learning, growth, and joy—only to arrive at a disastrous, soul-crushing destination. For them, the destination nullifies the beauty of the journey. They would much rather have stayed on that golden path, never arriving at all.

In fact, the journey-destination binary assumes that these experiences are static, singular events. But in reality, the journey is often fragmented, punctuated by micro-destinations along the way. And the destination is never final—it’s just another stop on an ever-evolving path. Who are these opportunists, then, that profit from distilling such complexity into bite-sized wisdom for the masses? More importantly, why are we so eager to believe them?


2. Crafting Illusions for the Masses

Opportunists thrive on ambiguity. They know that the majority of people are uncomfortable with uncertainty, with the open-ended nature of life’s questions. The need for answers—for meaning—is a fundamental human trait. So, these opportunists, whether they’re authors, motivational speakers, or so-called life coaches, manufacture meaning from vapid clichés. They offer quick fixes and market them as deep insights.

And here's the kicker—they don't just sell you ideas; they sell you identity. When you adopt their phrases, you’re not just buying into a thought, you’re buying into a way of seeing the world. You become the person who believes “the journey is more important than the destination.” You become someone who looks for “life lessons” in every misstep and setback, all the while missing the larger point: not every journey is a lesson, and not every destination is worth the struggle.

In this way, these opportunists aren't just profiting off your vulnerability; they’re actively reshaping your perception of reality, urging you to view life through a lens of shallow wisdom, which obscures more than it illuminates.


3. Where Does Meaning Truly Reside?

This brings us to a more metaphysical question: Where does meaning reside? Is it in the journey, the destination, or somewhere beyond both? The journey and destination are simply coordinates in the space-time fabric of our lives, but meaning transcends those points. It’s neither confined to the steps you take nor to the place you arrive. Meaning, like Turiya, the fourth state of consciousness in Vedantic philosophy, exists in a space beyond waking, dreaming, and deep sleep. It lies in the space between—the interstices where human experience intersects with the ineffable.

What if the journey and destination are both illusions, both mere artifacts of a linear perception of time? In this view, neither is inherently more valuable than the other. They are constructs we use to make sense of an existence that is, at its core, fluid and non-linear. We impose meaning onto events, paths, and outcomes, but those meanings are subjective and mutable. They are reflections of our internal states more than they are truths about the external world.

In parapsychological terms, this could be likened to the idea of thought-forms or tulpas—mental constructs that take on a life of their own. The journey and destination, as concepts, are thought-forms we project onto the vastness of existence. And just like thought-forms, they can be empowering or limiting, depending on how much credence we give them.


4. Are We Creating Our Own Realities?

Taking this a step further, consider the parapsychological implications: Are we, in essence, creating the very realities we experience by subscribing to certain beliefs about journeys and destinations? The mind is a powerful architect of reality. If we believe the journey is all-important, we will emphasize every struggle, every challenge, and every setback as part of a necessary growth process. If we believe the destination is paramount, we will fixate on outcomes, perhaps to the detriment of enjoying the present moment.

But what if both are simply illusions? What if life is more like a Möbius strip, where journey and destination are one continuous flow, indistinguishable from each other? In such a worldview, the act of problem-solving, of navigating life’s complexities, is itself the destination. The solution is not a point you arrive at but a process you inhabit. The question then becomes not "How do I get there?" but "How am I experiencing this moment?"

Here, we enter a territory that many opportunists would shy away from—because it’s messy, it’s uncertain, and it doesn’t sell as well as neat phrases. But this is where the true richness of human experience lies—in the ambiguity, in the spaces between certainty and doubt, between progress and setback, between journey and destination.


5. Life as an Endless Loop of Non-Lessons

Here’s the satirical twist: What if life is not about lessons at all? What if the very idea that every struggle teaches you something is just another thought-form we’ve been conditioned to believe? Think about it. How many times have you gone through an experience only to realize there was no deep lesson at all—just randomness, chaos, or sheer dumb luck?

This isn’t to say that learning doesn’t happen, but rather that not every experience is designed to teach. Sometimes things just happen, and we scramble to impose meaning on them after the fact. The opportunists want us to believe otherwise because a world where every journey teaches something is a world that feels safer, more controlled. But life isn’t controlled. It’s messy, unpredictable, and, most of the time, indifferent to our desires for neat conclusions.

And yet, it’s precisely in this messiness that life becomes so deeply, richly human. The lack of inherent meaning gives us the freedom to create our own. The absence of fixed lessons allows us to interpret our experiences however we choose—or not at all.


6. In Search of the Unmanufactured Truth

Where does that leave us? If the journey and destination are constructs, if the lessons are not guaranteed, and if meaning is as fluid as water, what is left? The answer might be unsettling: uncertainty. But uncertainty doesn’t have to be terrifying. It can be liberating.

By rejecting the opportunists’ neatly packaged truths, we free ourselves to engage with life on our own terms. We can stop looking for meaning in every corner and start living for the sheer experience of it. And in that experience, we might just find something deeper than any cliché could ever offer—an authentic connection to ourselves and the world around us, unfiltered by the need to impose meaning.

The next time someone tells you that "the journey is more important than the destination," feel free to question them. Perhaps neither matters. Or perhaps, both do. The beauty lies in the ambiguity.

-- Pradeep K (Prady)




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